To grow old Together.

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"You're still the one" was originally sung by Shania Twain, but I prefer the cover version of the song by Spencer Crandall. Love is one special and powerful force once you have it—that kind of love that keeps you going even through the bitter and sweet moments of life; that kind of love that is the central point between two soulmates; it makes your bonds stronger; it gives this high sense of loyalty and commitment even when people look down on whatever you have; even when it's so difficult as the vow goes "for better or worse," you still want to live through life with that one person.

Hence, the song defines love as strong commitment, loyalty, endurance, tolerance, stability, understanding, mutual feeling, and agreement. A relationship that goes beyond just personal and physical needs, one that can withstand the taste of time, isn't easily shaken by public views. Though it's more of a romantic song, I think when listening to the lyrics, it's easy to understand the message it's passing through. I think this kind of love is rare to come by in our present generation, where tolerance is non-existent and standing with one partner is almost a crime. Today we're in it, but the next day we are moving onto the next.

And we reflect on people's doubts about our love lives; just because your friend has doubts about your partner, it's enough to destroy whatever you were building, and the saying 'I ran out of love' comes in.

I, for one, have always wanted a romantic relationship built on trust, love, understanding, commitment—a lifelong commitment—and loyalty. I also want to look at my husband like my best friend. Let's look at each other and be like we made it through all the difficulties and challenges.

When I encountered this song, it was my first time ever attending a wedding. I was curious, excited, and awed. Of course I will be. It was the first time I actually saw a lady in a pretty white dress looking so happy and beautiful; her smile lit up the whole room. No, this wasn't the movie kind of wedding that placed your mind in a state of imagination. It was happening before me. And the groom looked like he had fallen from heaven; he was handsome, and you could just see how his eyes glinted in happiness while he sat with his bride. Even the MC had to acknowledge their dazzling appearance; it was a match made in heaven.

It was time for the couple to give their speech, and the groom went first; he was like, You know true love exists when your partner stands by you through the hard parts of life, encouraging you, embracing your flaws, and making you a better person. He said how they started dating at a tender age; she was his childhood friend, and when their parents found out, they discouraged the relationship. Friends and relatives were against their relationship, but you can't stop what was meant to be, especially when both partners are ready to take the risk to see the relationship progress. He said one thing that kills relationships is doubt; the moment you allow doubt into a relationship, it affects the trusting department and the understanding department, and it then leads to assumptions that are never really true because at this point the communication part of the relationship has been destroyed. He stated how he started from nothing, but she was there till he became something.

It was the bride's turn to give her speech. Though she said so much, one thing I picked from her speech was to never let someone's opinion on your relationship matter more than what you both have to say. And if you marry your best friend, you won't regret it.

After the couple's speech, the song 'You're still the one' was played for the couple to dance to. The song really fit into their journey, and finally they made it through.

And to be honest, I made a problem for myself as well. I wanted something like that or maybe more, something long-lasting, something that when I look back, I know I made the right choice and decision whenever I look at my partner. I never grew up seeing that kind of love in my family. Though my parents are not here today, I found out that wrong decisions in picking a partner can really affect, but the kids suffer more from their parents' mistakes.

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Even if only 5% of such love exists among the 7.888 billion people in the world, I still want to find it. It's not about finding the right one, because you can look for the right one for eternity; it's all about connection, stability, and the readiness to build from scratch, to make its foundation strong, and to grow old together with no regrets.
I want that kind of love.

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